I am sure you will agree that “Indecisiveness”
is another important cause of our stress and anxiety.
In a world
full of choices sometimes we get overwhelmed and are not able to make a
decision.
This
indecision may be the result of the fear of making a wrong decision.
What do we
do then-
-We may
decide to make the decision later on.
I
will decide when……”
“I will try and see
what happens.”
-We may just
decide on our gut feeling.
“I just know
this is right for me. I cannot explain but this is what I want to do.”
-We may ask
others for help and we may get advice based on their experience and expertise.
We may do
some research and then make a decision.
Except for
procrastination all others methods may help you to make your choice.
There is
another very effective method to make your decision using comparison matrix.
You can use this method to
decide for an option or to compare different options. It is a very simple
technique.
You just
need to draw a four box table like below.
-Think about
the option and write down all the points that come in your mind. Try to focus
and fill one box at a time. Soon you will have all your thoughts on the paper
in an organized way. Read all your points again, compare, analyze and make the
decision.
If still
indecisive then analyze it more objectively.
Assess each
point on a 100 point scale of significance in making a decision, 1 as least
significant and 100 as most significant. You will get a value for each box.
Compare and decide.
This method
is very effective in making a decision. You can evaluate each aspect of the
decision - your priority, your aspirations and long term goals,
your interest, feasibility, time and effort.
This is one
of the favorite tools of cognitive behavior therapy (CBT).
So make the decision and keep stress and anxiety under check!!
